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Tuesday, 22 March 2011

Perasaan apabila kehilangan anak

About 2 weeks ago, we went to see an art exhibition at the Atrium of Fukuoka Chuo Bank Ltd. The "Life Is Going On" : Shireen Lee Solo Exhibition is held from 8th until 18th March 2011. The objective of the exhibition is to promote cultural exchange through the showcase of artworks by Malaysian artist, Shireen Lee.


+- the artist and I, in front of the Atrium of Fukuoka Chuo Bank -+


The exhibits including various sizes of artworks done in watercolor, oil, charcoal and mix media depicting flora in different stages of life and the artist's interpretation on 'Art and Life'. This is her first solo exhibition, therefore we feel the need to support our fellow Malaysian friend here in Fukuoka thus we decided to visit the exhibition on Saturday; 12th Mac 2011 *a day after the massive 9.0 SR earthquake hits NE of Japan*.

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+- some of her good pieces of artworks -+


Art is clearly not my forte at all although I do take Pendidikan Seni as one of the subjects for my SPM and I managed to score C3 while the rest of my friend scored A1. I know how hard it is to draw a good picture thus I admired those who is gifted with great painting skills.


I spend a good amount of time with each piece within the exhibition and try to get a sense of overall themes. I also try to get an understanding of the process by which she make her work. I enjoy looking at every tiny details of efforts that she has put in her drawings and I am blown away by her paintings.

While doing so, I totally forget about my baby as he was happily playing along with other children in the showroom. Plus, I'm pretty sure that hubby will have an eye on Nazhan.

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+- Nazhan having his own great time while mommy and daddy were 'busy' looking at the drawings -+


After the other children left the showroom, then only I realize that my baby is nowhere in sight. Bila tanya hubby, he has no idea at all on whereabouts is Nazhan at that time. Panic feeling strikes me!.


The showroom is situated next to a main road; which experience heavy traffic during weekdays and even weekends. Hubby ran out of the showroom, and headed straight to the main road to search high and low for Nazhan but to no avail. The artist, Shireen Lee and her husband even help hubby to look for Nazhan ouside of the showroom.


I was about to cry. With stories of abducted, murdered children, and even road accidents filtering through my brain, I frantically called his name. It wasn’t like Nazhan to not stick around mommy and daddy. All sorts of nasty feelings fills my head which making me going crazy. Nak-nak pulak masa tu ada bas lalu dan berhenti kat depan tu. I tak nak fikir bukan-bukan tapi kepala otak memang dah membayangkan macam-macam kemungkinan buruk.


I decided to search one more time inside the showroom. I surveyed every single corner and every single sections of the showroom until at last I saw a glimpse of a tiny little body is sitting on the chair reading a brochure pamphlet.


That tiny little body is of course my darling angel Nazhan, who is waiting patiently for his parent to enjoy the art exhibition. Elok je dia duduk diam-diam atas kerusi tu sambil baca brochure dan buat muka macam tak ada apa-apa pun yang dah berlaku.

Okeh, memang bukan salah Nazhan. Memang sebenarnya tiada apa-apa yang berlaku. Mommy & daddy je yang tak perasan Nazhan duduk diam-diam je kat kerusi belakang meja. Lagipun, Nazhan duduk di belakang meja yang besar jadi mommy & daddy memang tak nampak Nazhan sebab Nazhan tersorok belakang meja tu.


Darling hubby who usually is a calm and cool guy pun panik sampai pucat muka. Masa I keluar dari showroom tu untuk inform hubby that I've found Nazhan safe and sound, hubby was still running around looking for Nazhan by the main road. I could immediately sense the relief on hubby's face.


The thought of losing him although in that few minutes scared me to death. I promised myself not to let that kind of incident occurred to me ever again. Losing a child is a horrific experience no parent should ever have to face. It is one of the most unnatural things that can happen to a parent. It's something many people fear at one time or another, but probably never expect to actually experience.


I might only 'lose' my child for few minutes and I already couldn't bear the fear feeling of losing him forever. I could still recall how frightened I was when we couldn’t find our precious son.

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+- bila dah jumpa, terus mommy dukung Nazhan. I was wearing a mask sebab tengah selsema, to prevent from spreading the virus to others -+


Thus when I read about a very sad story about the Arwah Adelia Bt Mohd Nizzam who had passed away at her nursery in Section 10 in Shah Alam; it kills me. She was only 2 months and 3 days old. It must be the hardest time in their life for the young parent to accept this incident, and it happens at a nursery where the parents trust to give good care of their baby.


You can read the news of the stories in Utusan, and also you can read it from one of the family member of the baby. Full details read here --> Tears Of Heaven In Shah Alam, JUSTICE FOR ARWAH ADELIA BT FARIZA, Pemergian Adelia : 16march 2011.

Thus I
completely understand the action of the late baby's father in seeking the justice of his baby. Full details, read it here --> Nizzam's Pursuit For Justice Continues and The One About Justice For Arwah Adelia.




May Allah help the parents to go through this hard time. LOSING a child has been described as the worst kind of loss anyone could possibly go through, a searing and unspeakable pain. The emotions that accompany a loss of this magnitude is much like plumbing the depths of an abyss, not knowing if one will ever be able to climb out of it one day, unscathed and whole.


Semoga kebenaran akan menang dan semoga apa yang terjadi ini membuka mata pihak berwajib tentang pentingnya melakukan pemantauan menyeluruh terhadap nursery-nursery di Malaysia.


Pssssttt : Kejadian ini membuatkan semangat I untuk berkongsi lebih banyak info tentang nursery2 di Jepun semakin membuak-buak.


16 words of wisdom & comments:

Confession of a Coffeeholic Momma said...

huish... pasni gi jalan2, tambat lah SN to ur body. i yg membaca pun peluh sejuk.

safety kat daycare sini pun tight gak. nak masuk kena enter code kat pintu bagai. pastu kena lalu counter yg ada org jaga. kalau muka tak familiar, dia tak bg masuk.

AshAnas said...

mmg berdebar bila anak hilang cmtu... kita yg rasa bersalah sgt2 sbb tak keep our eyes on him kan...

al-fatihah buat arwah adelia...

Farah Rahim said...

Great Reading yang pasal nursery jepun tu Yatie. Its no wonder the Japanese are so discipline and sifat2 humane masih tidak tertinggal wpun dalam keadaan bencana (I read yg pasal masih beratur utk naik keretapi tu)

Everything starts from small...baik kanvas yang dicoret warna, maka baiklah masterpiece itu dan tinggi nilainya

p/s thanks for putting this up here and YES YES YES please do share more info on Nursery kat Jepun. I suka baca - kalau ada duit kepok2 I bukak satu ikut konsep tu di sini - altho getting people who UNCONDITIONALLY love babies orang lain might be something you cant buy with money :(((

Hamizah said...

oghe buka nurseri, kita buka nurseri..
tp x tau pulok nok jg anak oghe molek2..

Oyis said...

luruh jantung kjp klo jd yatie.

it's about time msian authorities take actions against nursery2 yg cuai mcm ni. dah terlalu byk kes kita dgr

mazni_azis said...

Teringat beberapa minggu lepas tlg cari budak yg hlg kat hostel..mak n ayah dia mmg cuak giler....

Min Aina Ila Aina said...

Saya penah juga alami walaupun sekejap. Dahla sorang je ayahnya takde masa tu. Kat pasar malam. Saya pilih sayur dan Sofiy kat tepi saya...sambil dok usik-usik daun sayur. Tiba saya pusing tengok dah takde. Ya Allah, jantung berdegup tak terkata. Risau dah kena culik pasar malam kan ramai orang. Saya dah keluar dari khemah sayur tu nak cari, mujur pusing semula kat tempat saya berdiri tadi. Rupanya dia ada je...dia ubah tempat pergi belah belakang saya masa saya berdiri tadi tu. Huhu..lepas tu tak lepas dah tangan dia.

syayassir said...

hmm, dah banyak sangat kes meninggal kat taska/rumah pengasuh ni... sangat2 bimbang rasanya.... tak dapat bayangkan perasaan parents yang kehilangan anak ni....

transformed housewife said...

Nazhan wat mummy & daddy debar deh. kalu takut Nazhan lari, keno beli safety harness kot. budok2 kecik meme suko gi lari situ sini. Al-Fatihah utk arwah Adelia. Knur pun dok pikir banyok2 kali ni kalu nok ado baby lagi sbb tok sanggup nok tinggalkan kat nursery.

yatie chomeyl said...

mama miya >> bagus safety gitu, tak la parent risau sgt kan

shira >> tu la, if somehing bad happen..mesti kita akan salahkan diri sendiri kan

farah rahim >> thanks for dropping by. insya Allah I akan share lagi banayk2 info pasal nursery kat jepun

yatie chomeyl said...

k/hamizah >> jolo doh, napok duit jah..tanggungjawab dgn amanah tu tok napok pulop

oyis >> that is so true. bilo la kjaan msia nok napok kepentingan nursery ni eh?

angah >> mmg cuak bila anak hilang, rasa menggeletar seluruh badan

yatie chomeyl said...

Aina >> mesti cuak sgt2 masa tu kan. dha la sorang2 pulak tu huuhuhu

sya >> tu lah, mcm nyawa baby tu takde harga pulak

k/nur >> solah x bui beli harness tu, dio oyat mace nok tambat anok pulop

firahadifa said...

kesian nyer kat arwah.. aku pon da seriau nk hantar anak kat nusery.. hrmmm

Heartilyina said...

i sgt faham perasaan tu! itu pn i baru hilang ihsan masa dlm rumah my parents. kalau jadi kt luar rumah sure lagi panik! dah mcm2 i fikir n dh nk nangis. then i cuba bertenang n carik lg skali at last jmpa! elok je dia dok diam2 kt blakang langsir. tula bagus gak dok rumah nihon comel je cnfirm xde kejadian anak hilang hihi. btw al-fatihah tu arwah adelia. byk betul kejadian mcm ni kan.

yatie chomeyl said...

apid >> tu la, aku pun rs takut nk tinggal anak kat nursery di msia

ina >> tu la, rumah msia luas2 kan mesti gelabah nak cari satu rumah. nasib baik ihsan good boy, duk diam2 je blkg langsir tu ::)

umi nuha said...

ingat tak muka I masa nuha hilang kat disneyland paris tu hari..cuak...seb baik guard situ mmg terlatih ngan budak2 hilang ni kannn

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